I wasn’t really sure how to explain my personality until recently.
See the thing is, most people assume I’m an extrovert. I’m pretty outgoing, love spending time with friends, and enjoy going pretty consistently.
But in reality, I get overwhelmed at events given certain factors; I shut down pretty easily and, where introverts would be given a free pass, someone like me is seen as mean or stand offish. People then take it personally because their expectations of who I am didn’t match the reality of who I am.
I constantly have a million things going on in my head so sometimes I get stuck there and my outward expressions aren’t happy go lucky because my brain is going a hundred miles an hour. It’s part of my type 3 enneagram personality. That mixed with being both an introverted extrovert and I’ve become an anomaly to people who don’t truly know me. I also believe these can change overtime. Honestly, becoming a foster mom really changed who I was.
So here I am reaching out to all of the others out there like me. I see you overwhelmed at an outing. I see you receding into your mind because you’re just trying to do it all. I see you getting filled with being around people but as soon as you hit a wall, that introvert hits hard.
Just like we shouldn’t make complete characterizations about people on social media, we really shouldn’t base our decision on their character from big events or gatherings. We should take the time to make relationships, the kind that are one on one and allow you to know that person completely. And if you don’t have time for that, remember to give people grace. Maybe it’s an off day. Maybe they’re overwhelmed. Maybe they’re just like me and they don’t fit into one of the 2 categories of people.
Let’s just be kind and extend grace to people. The same kind of grace we want extended to us. If anything at least the world would be a kinder place.
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Life is hard.
Sometimes I think people see a person’s social media and assume their life is perfect. And while I appreciate the realness of posting messy houses and dirty, whiny kids, there are so many things in life we don’t and can’t post.
Hurts, failures, wrongdoings, intricacies of foster care and adoption, family issues, being a letdown to friends, and on and on and on. And honestly, I’m dealing with a lot of those. Not just one or two.
So when a person posts about their kids or something good that happened, maybe it’s because they are focusing on that good to make it through the bad.
Or they post a devotional. Maybe that specific text or Bible verse is what’s getting them through that day.
Or maybe even posting cute pictures or videos of our kids is done on really good days and we know there are other people out there who could benefit from that happiness being shown because they are going through a really rough time.
Whatever it is, we should all assume people have things going on in their lives that aren’t Instagram worthy. We need to remember and reach out to our friends outside of social media. We should remember that we all have lives being lived outside of social media. We should look to Instagram for inspiration, not comparison or to check up on friends. And while it’s a tough balance to share all of it, it doesn’t take away from what we don’t share. It doesn’t make that go away.
My life is not perfect. Not even close. But gah I’m thankful for it. And I hope that in sharing things on here I never give people the impression that my life is easy. It’s not. But it’s so worth fighting for. Even those really hard things.
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Up until last July 27, I thought “aluminum won’t hurt me that bad”, “cancer is inevitable”, “I don’t want to sweat”, “deodorants are safe, surely they aren’t putting things in them that will hurt me”.... But let’s talk reality.
Aluminum in our deodorant goes into our armpit sweat glands/pores and plugs them. That’s it’s job. Some of it is absorbed while the other plugs. Do you know what it keeps in? All of the stuff that is supposed to come out. The parabens, phthalates, synthetic fragrance, and other toxins our body is trying to get out, that stuff is all plugged into our bodies.
Know where it goes? Into our lymph nodes and breast tissue. Know what that stuff does there? Stays. It accumulates in our tissue and our endocrine system.
Wonder why breast cancer is “the norm”? Wonder why more and more young women are getting it? We are poisoning our body and then plugging it. Just not allowing any of it to come out and expecting our body to just deal with it.
Cancer doesn’t come out of the blue. It starts small with environmental factors and then all of those are just compounded over the years. 95% of cancer is environmentally caused.
When my mom was diagnosed at 55 last July I decided to do something about it. To at least try.
I tried natural deodorants but as a sweaty person, those just didn’t work for me. And then companies like Native and Toms were bought out by companies I don’t care to buy from. Did you know the new Native scents have “fragrance” in them? That means there are chemicals in there they don’t care to name. It’s not a coincidence that happened after they were bought out.
So what do I use? Toothpaste. Thieves toothpaste with a drop of Patchouli.
It’s the best thing I’ve found. Patchouli is calming and it helps with the appearance of skin. No irritation, no toxins entering my body, just a natural option that is legit straight from nature.
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